If you're sensing something's wrong between you and your partner, chances are that you are right. Don't let a small, nagging inkling about your mate's thoughts of infidelity, real or perceived, SharekAlmore fester into the big, fatal problem: check what's wrong now, and get your relationship coached to health.
It's all over the place, the
high-profile cases of "chexting," celebrity infidels, and lawsuits
for bazillions against government officials' mistresses for alienation of
affection: text cheating, outright affairs, and the sheer wrath of a woman scorned.
These highbrow examples bring home the real-life threats that you may sense are
darkening your relationship. Don't let it slide; address your gut feelings
about problems now, before they escalate into the actual injury.
In any frame of mind, it can be
more than just a bit unnerving to be awash in the waves of celebrity news about
this or that infidelity, this or that marriage destroyed, yet another mistress
coming forth, YourChristianDate.com waving her
text messages, pics, videos, whatever humiliating evidence, and publicly
testifying to the act(s) of betrayal. This uneasy feeling can be truly
disturbing if your gut is telling you that something is off, something is not
quite right, between you and your partner.
You may be tempted to second-guess
yourself: you may tell yourself that you're being paranoid, irrational, overly
sensitive, or moody...but the truth is, you well may be right on, if your gut
is telling you that something is wrong between you and your partner. It could
be a most subtle shade of feeling, and if it passes, then perhaps it is
nothing, after all. But if you find that your gut feeling lingers, and worse,
if you are starting to feel estranged from your partner, you are well advised
to summon the courage and address that lurking suspicion: What's going on?
If you're in a state of doubt and
anxiety about the health of your marriage or partnership, ask yourself if any
of these cautionary FlirtWith.com review flags apply to your relationship, individually
or mutually:
Yellow Zone Flags that Signal
Trouble in Your Relationship
· Neither person seems to recognize
the other's feelings · You and your partner live like two separate people · You
find you're purposely arranging different schedules · You find yourself looking
outside of your marriage/partnership to fill a void · You feel that you are
constantly walking on eggshells · You seem to have lost your sense of purpose
in the relationship · You feel that you've lost your sense of personal identity
· You find that you're arguing over petty issues to get attention
If you identify with any, or
several, of these indicators, it is definitely the time to nip the growing
estrangement in the bud. It doesn't necessarily indicate infidelity, but it is
sure could lead in that direction, especially if your partner seems to be
looking outside of your marriage to fill a need, or perceived void.
Perhaps your partner is engaged in
flirting on the internet, or texting explicit sexual messages
("chexting"), with a "friend" or "acquaintance."
Short of spying, or otherwise violating personal privacy boundaries, keep your
awareness up if your partner seems to be secretive on their cell phone, or
while at the computer. Are they suddenly volunteering to run errands, or
abruptly excusing themselves in an effort to grab some private time and space?
Trust your instincts!
So again, your insides are feeling
that there's something going on, and you're noting any of the above yellow-flag
behaviors... Now is the time to act! Preventative, professional mediation
through a licensed and certified relationship coach can intercept and correct
your slide into alienation or worse, dissolution and divorce: tend to the
problems before they deepen and ultimately destroy your relationship!
What if you were to wait, continue
to second-guess yourself, and deny these "yellow zone" danger signs?
Perhaps you already have, and are now experiencing the "red zone"
flags of an impending break-up.
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